Last Sunday Gabe and me pampered ourselves with buying books hehehe. Gordon; Thomas and Friends for Gabe and The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman ad Ross Campbell. Just finished reading the 1st chapter of my book and realised that although I've been a mother for the past 25 years doesn't make me an expert and not only that...errr...some of the technique or shall I say habbit sure need to be scrap off...deleted...terminated... and some need to be improvise LOL
This book is sure an awakening to me as well as a reminder to me not to take the language of love for granted and the greatest love is unconditional love. For being a parents we sometimes think we know all and are sufficient by simply telling a child "I love you" or "sya cari makan ni kalau bukan untuk anak2..siapa lagi!" and by saying and doing so our children know that they are being loved. Of all the ways we can miscommunicate our intentions, perhaps the way that has the greatest potential for harm is to not properly communicate love to our children. Can you speak and do you speak you child's love language?(errr...made me look deep into myself hehe)
Well..this book show you how to recognize and speak your child's primary love language as well as four other common love languages that can help your child know you love him or her. This book will introduce you to all the five love languages of children and help you determine the primary languages in which your child hears your love. Speaking your child's primary love language does not mean he or she will not rebel later. It does mean your child will know you love him, and that can bring him security and hope; it can help you to rear your child to responsible childhood. Love is the foundation.
Snippet from How a Childs Feels Loved
For a child to feel love, we must learn to sepak her unique love language. Every child has a special way of perceiving love. There are basically five ways children (indeed, all people) speak and understand emotional love. They are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service. If you have several children in your family, chances are they speak different languages, for just as children often have different personalities, they may hear in different love languages. Typically, two children need to be lvoed in different ways.